Divorce CAN be a long and drawn out process just like we have previously discussed in the other articles. When a divorce becomes long and drawn out, the soon-to-be-ex’s end up wasting a lot of money and a lot of time at the court house, litigating issues that could have been resolved easily, outside of court if only the soon-to-be-ex’s had known how to set themselves up for success.
With regard to setting yourself up for success in divorce, we have posted a lot of valuable information on this website about how to win your divorce and how to plan ahead for your divorce. Just as important as ‘winning’ and ‘planning ahead’, being able to ‘settle’ your divorce outside of court requires a whole different line of thinking in that yes it important and yes it does require you to give some thought ahead of time about the divorce process. On the other hand ‘settling’ does not require you to think in terms of ‘winning’ or ‘losing’. Instead, settling outside of court requires you to think in terms of ‘cooperation’, ‘compromise’, and reaching a ‘mutually favorable agreement’. So long as you CAN think in terms of ‘cooperation’ and ‘compromise’ then you should be to settle your divorce outside of court according to the terms of a ‘mutually favorable agreement’.
Next, now that we have discussed the foundational thinking that is required in order to settle outside of court, let’s turn our attention towards things that you ought to do in order to make sure that you are ‘set up for success’:
Number One: Avoid Doing Anything Stupid. During the early parts of your divorce, a stupid action is one where you do something that will cause your soon-to-be-ex to ‘fly off the handle’. Avoid taking any type of action that will potentially cause an emotional overreaction in your ex like for example, you should avoid bring your new flame with you to attend one of your children’s school functions.
Number Two: Communicate With Your Soon-To-Be-Ex. Part of being able to settle outside of court requires that you keep your soon-to-be-ex calm. In other words, try to keep the divorce process smooth so that your soon-to-be-ex will not ‘blow up’ and have an emotional overreaction. So long as your soon-to-be-ex is approachable and reasonable, then we strongly recommend that you talk things over with them to help ease some of the tension.
Number Three: Be Reasonable. Whenever you and your soon-to-be-ex talk about the divorce, you will at some point in time begin talking about the terms of a mutually favorable agreement. When these discussions begin, be sure to be reasonable in your demands. So long as you will be reasonable and your soon-to-be-ex will be reasonable then chances are high that you all will be able to settle your divorce outside of court.
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